THERAPY FOR COUPLES

Free 1/2 Hour Session to determine if I am the best therapist for you.

• Poor Communication
• Lack Of Emotional/Sexual Intimacy
• Bickering And Fighting
• Infidelity
• Lack Of Sexual Desire
• Pornography/ Sexual/Internet Addiction
• Any Compulsive Or Addictive Behavior

Couples have come to me wanting to address a variety of problems ranging from infidelity to pornography use to poor communication. The underlying problem is always that these two people are lacking both a connection to their own emotional, inner world and an emotional connection with their partner.

When you get into conflict or are not getting along, something inside of you is stirred up and you become emotionally reactive. You may go on the offensive, blaming, attacking, or criticizing. Or maybe you become defensive, withdrawing, resenting or withholding. Any stance means that you are not managing your own emotions and being responsible for your behavior. Once you are in this mode there is little possibility of resolution.

I will assist you in identifying, experiencing, and expressing the core emotions that are fueling the emotional reactivity in a way that promotes good will and connection. These core, deep feelings are painful and extremely difficult to manage. You, like most people simply cannot do this on your own, otherwise you would have already accomplished this.

And what is most crucial is that each of you be able to experience on a “body felt” level that the other person holds you in their mind and heart. This is what creates the bond, the connection. Without the connection there is no healthy, sustaining relationship. With a connection there is a relationship so durable, so substantial that neither person would desire another and nothing can severe this bond. Nothing.

I will help you get to this connected place where you both are committed to the process. Once the connection is established, any presenting problem is manageable and able to be worked through to completion. In fact, at this stage of the relationship conflict is welcomed since it always brings the couple closer rather than polarizing them.

If even one of you is agreeable to do the work, however, a connection is still possible. One dedicated person may still be able to change the relationship.

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